There's rosemary, that's for remembrance.
William Shakespeare: Hamlet, Prince of Denmark



Sunday, October 05, 2008

A moment in time...the woman he....

....fell in love with....me. San Simeon, Ca., 1982.


Seems to be a time for remembrance. Exactly 23 years ago today Steve and I were married.


When we met he was a staff Pharmacist, I was a staff nurse. It was April 17, 1982. We were both working extra graveyard shifts at a Medical Center in California to make money. Times were tough for both of us then.

The short version of the how we met story goes like this:

It was 5:30 AM. I was making last rounds for the horrible load of 25 patients I was responsible for that night. Mr. Rodriguez in 520A needed a new IV bag. I looked in every nook and cranny; no IV for Mr. Rodriguez. I called the Pharmacy, Steve answered......Steve Pharmacy can I help you fifth floor?

I told Steve Pharmacy what I needed, he said the bag would be sent right up via the tubes. Off I went to finish rounds. 6AM and no IV bag had arrived. I called Steve Pharmacy again. His response? 99% of the time when a nurse calls for an IV it is right there in the patient's cubby . Did you look there? Did you look on the back up cart and isn't that IV running a little fast? I. Was. Angry. My response? 100% of the time when I call for an IV it is because I have looked everywhere and it is not in the cubby or on the back up cart. Let me worry about the IV rate. I want that IV and I want it now.

Steve Pharmacy brought the IV bag up himself and I gave him a tour of cubbies, carts and all of the hiding places for emergency IV bags nurses used to make Pharmacists angry.

Steve and I had never met before that night. We didn't even remember seeing each other just in passing. But after that night it seemed that every time I called the Pharmacy, Steve answered. We saw each other in the halls, in the parking lot, at the employee bar-b-que and in the cafeteria. We talked, we became friends and at the employee trip to the Renaissance Faire we fell in love. The rest is bumpy history but what a wonderful bunch of bumps.

I was a redhead when Steve first saw me. He was blond and had thick hair. I weighed 130, he was 155. We each had two previous spouses, a team of kids, alimony and child support issues and divorce horror stories. We bought a dumpy house for pennies, brought all of the kids at one time or another into that house to live, discovered we loved cats, took wonderful trips, owned several businesses together and were wooed by Idaho.

Steve is one of the nicest people I have ever met. He is generous, kind and loving. Most importantly, he is genuine. If I told him I wanted a luxury yacht, fur coat, a 10 carat diamond ring and he thought it would make me happy, he'd figure out a way to get them for me. He does not adjust to change easily. He still sees me at 130 with big goggle glasses and doesn't understand my fretting over grey hair, wrinkles and a poochy tummy. We are a good fit, a good team, friends, and the day I met Steve was absolutely the luckiest/best day of my life.

I imagine that every couple thinks they are the only two people on earth that have a love so great there are no words to define it. I love Steve, he loves me. I can't imagine life without him. He has cried at the thought of losing me. That is our greatness.

I had the sad assignment of caring for Mr. Rodriguez about a year after I met Steve. He was still a young man and he was dying. I met his wife and had the opportunity to tell her about how I met Steve. I think my story eased her hurt a little and made at least that day easier for her. I know Steve has made my days wonderful. Happy 23rd Anniversary my sweetheart/honey/yes, dear.

Yosemite, Ca., 1982.
2006.

October 5, 1985.




20 comments:

Jennie said...

Happy Anniversary Rosemary and Steve. I love your story and how your pasts brought you together for a great love. No, you don't hear about such love too often. Thank heavens for missing IV bags.

Barb said...

Happy anniversary Rosemary!

Wishing you lots more years of happiness!

Love you

Stephanie said...

OK Rosemary, you made me tear up!!!! I love you both sooo much and i know you were meant for each other!!!

kenju said...

What a nice tribute to your marriage! Happy Anniversary to you both. Rosemary, you have very nice eyes!

Joan said...

"Happy, Happy Anniversary" Rosemary and Steve. Yours is a wonderful story and I hope it continues for many chapters to come!

yellowdog granny said...

made me wish i had one of them..
you two are very lucky..

Evil Twin's Wife said...

Happy Anniversary! Such a sweet story!

CRAIG and DIANE said...

Happy Anniversary. There is something to be said for fate. I believe in it and the journey it takes us on through life. Be happy and rejoice in what you have and that so many people are still searching for!

jan said...

What a wonderful story. Happy anniversary and many more. It's so great that you found each other when you did.

Sling said...

Happy aniversary to two wonderful kids!
Your story made me a little verklempt.

Mom said...

You are a blessing to each other. Happy anniversary!

madretz said...

I love it! I'm so glad you guys found each other. Happy Happy anniversary!

sageweb said...

Happy Anniversary! What a great story and what a cute couple.

Shammickite said...

Happy Anniversary Rosie and Steve! That's a lovely love story. Steve is such a darling and he looks so cuddly with that gorgeous teddy bear hair. Give him a big hug from me!

Chris said...

What a great story! Happy Anniversary!

Miss Healthypants said...

How wonderful! Happy Anniversary! :)

I don't think that EVERY couple thinks they are the "only two people on earth that have a love so great there are no words to define it"...but I do think that Iwanski & me and you & your hubby are two such couples. :)

Lucky us! :)

Kimberly Ann said...

Happy Anniversary! What a great story, with great pictures to go with it. Thanks for sharing it with us.

Cazzie!!! said...

Happy anniversary to the both of you. Such candid words... lovely :)

Middle Child said...

Happy Anniversary - that hair (his I mean) And he's still got it. It is lovely to hear about other couples with a love story...

You bought a tear to my eye...

You were both good sorts - still are!!!

Speck said...

Aw, how sweet!

Happy Anniversary!