There's rosemary, that's for remembrance.
William Shakespeare: Hamlet, Prince of Denmark

Monday, February 15, 2010

On life....A Fairy Tale?

Their routine never changes....although they do sleep in a bit later.

She prepares breakfast; he takes the dogs out, feeds the wildlife, gathers the newspaper.

They read the paper while eating and engage in a little conversation. 

He goes into the room they still refer to as the office; she cleans the house.

Lunch is a rather quiet meal and then repitition of the morning routine.

Late afternoon is a difficult time for both of them; it used to be a time to unwind and become a family of two after a day of work.  Now, it is a time of remembrance for what used to be.  Add a walk to divert thoughts; add a bike ride; take the dogs on the trails.  Volunteer someplace; anyplace. Stay upright.

Dinner. Dishes. TV. She reads. He falls asleep on the couch.  They both think of his father and step-mother; living this exact life.  Family is far away. This is not the way their silver years were in that fairy tale.

Some people are made to relax, others are made to keep busy.  Not keeping busy, having relaxation forced onto someone, only makes them bitter and sad.

She is bitter; he is sad.  There is no solution; there is only time.  It is called "The Economy." 


powdergirl said...

Well, I know of one thing "She" could do more of.

"She" could write more. "She" has a subtle but vivid way with words, poignant, deep reaching, and evocative.

I do wish that "She" and "He" had their families nearer to them in miles, though. It seems a loss for both sides that you don't have more time together.

Fucking economy.

kenju said...

Powdergirl is right. Drown your bitterness in words and let us share in your insights.

sageweb said...

you take great pictures you can write and take pictures. Also throwing rocks is fun


ditto for all of the above

Evil Twin's Wife said...

I hope by the time that Spring has sprung, the economy is budding again too. We really need it! {{{Hugs}}}

Mom said...

Oh rosemary, we all understand what you are talking about. Retirement is a huge adjustment under the best of circumstances - and your circumstances are not what you had planned. Thanks for sharing your heart.

Jennie said...

Hold on till spring. Sun and warmth do magical things.

Random Thinker said...

I won't trivialize what you're feeling by saying anything. Just sending hugs your way.

Miss Healthypants said...

Wow, Rosemary...sorry to hear how you're feeling now...

But I do agree with what Powdergirl said, totally. Please continue to write...through your writing, you touch those near and far...and I hope that brings you some peace.

Thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way...

Middle Child said...

I agree with them all sweetheart... but I add...enjoy and store away these "ordinary" times...for one of you they will become precious memories.

That said Dylan Thomas wrote,
"Do not go gentle unto that good night. Rage, rage rage against the dying of the light."

you know what that means as we all do